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Micro-Moments in Love aka How to Fall in Love with a Stranger

25 Jan

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There is this amazing article on TheAtlantic.com called “There’s No Such Thing as Everlasting Love (According to Science.)” That sounds like quite the buzzkill for my love to love behind, but it’s actually quite the opposite.

The piece has several quotes from psychologist Barbara Fredrickson, whose new book Love 2.0: How Our Supreme Emotion Affects Everything We Feel, Think, Do, and Becomeposits a beautiful new theory about how love works. Fredrickson, a positive emotions researcher, says that love is not some big iron thing that bonds people together for a 75 year marriage. She says that love actually happens in micro-moments.

That means that you have these moments of synchronized emotions with people–be it a child, a parent, a spouse, a good friend or even a stranger. Yes, Fredrick says it’s possible to temporarily fall in love with a stranger in one of those micro-moments. I love it!

My career requires frequent social outings and sometimes I do connect very strongly with strangers that I meet. To think that it could be “love” is quite interesting.

The science behind this theory is even more intriguing and beautiful. Love, like other emotions has physiological components. So in these micro-moments your body links with that person. The vagus nerve, which connects your brain to your heart does all types of awesome things.

In her book, Fredrickson says:

Your vagus nerve stimulates tiny facial muscles that better enable you to make eye contact and synchronize your facial expressions with another person. It even adjusts the minuscule muscles of your middle ear so you can better track her voice against any background noise.

It’s such a special thing. I smiled the whole time I read that. The fact that your body adjusts to hear that person  better and that your face wants to do what that person’s face does…it’s just beautiful.

Gosh, I love love.

There’s also some interesting data in there about meditation and Buddhism and how being a loving person makes you a physically healthier person. There’s no downside to being a loving, happy, open person. Think about it.

I strongly encourage you to read the piece.  

On that note, there was one part in the article that got me thinking. What or who in your life right now brings you the greatest source of happiness?

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2 Comments

Posted by on January 25, 2013 in Love

 

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2 responses to “Micro-Moments in Love aka How to Fall in Love with a Stranger

  1. Julie Israel

    January 26, 2013 at 1:34 am

    I can’t remember where, but a while back I read something (likely an article in The Guardian) about how moments of intense FEAR triggers brain chemistry similar to feelings of passion, and that if two people experience one of those intense surges together (ie, in a fire, or an earthquake, or burglary, etc.) they can become extremely attracted to one another.

    Fascinating stuff.

     
  2. Demetria Irwin

    February 19, 2013 at 7:00 am

    Yeah! I can def see emergency type situations bringing out romantic feelings. I could especially see falling for the firefighter. LOL

     

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