Do you have a girlfriend who details her endless daily drama with her boyfriend and then gets mad when you suggest that she leave him? Or how about the girlfriend who thinks every little thing her man does should be discussed, praised and cooed over? There was once a woman (see, no identifying info there) who would bring to work pictures of her husband everyday. Every. Single. Day. You would think he was a newborn baby who actually changed or grew on a daily basis instead of some guy farting on the couch (said woman threw in fun facts about that). These two types of dames spew superlatives on polar opposite extremes, but they actually suffer from the same malady: over-sharing.
Sure, having a good giggle about a particularly ridiculous argument or a thoughtful surprise gift is fine, but there is such a thing as too much info. Having to sit next to the venom-spewing hellion at the bar who has nothing but complaints about her man and everybody’s else’s is no fun and it’s also a guaranteed way to keep potentially interested men far far away. For those of you with loosey goosey “friends,” a lot of bragging about a man’s bedroom skills just might tempt some to try to experience those moves for themselves. Plus, usually when women only have rosy things to say about their relationships to their close friends, it’s either very new or something is very wrong that they aren’t willing to share or acknowledge yet.
I’ve been married for three years, with my husband for a total of five years and I try to strike a balance with what I share with friends. I don’t want to be the married woman who can’t have a conversation without saying “my huusssssssband” at least 10 times, but I also don’t want to make it seem like my marriage is some mysterious thing that is there but never talked about. I share more of my joys than frustrations and in fact I have more joys than frustrations. And anyway, some things are impossible to share in any meaningful way with someone who is not in your relationship. Certain little quirks/unspoken bonds in your relationship aren’t necessarily meant to be understood by others, so why try to explain them?
What say you, dear readers? Where is the line for talking about your man to your girls? Are you an over-sharer yourself? How have you dealt with over-sharing girlfriends?