Local legislators in Mexico City are considering offering two-year renewable marriage contracts. The idea is that instead of a big messy, emotionally draining divorce, a couple could sign this two-year contract (which essentially has a built-in pre-nup that determines child custody and property division) and if the couple is unhappy at the end of the two years, they can simply part ways per the terms of the agreement. If they still want to rock it out, they can renew the contract.
According to the Globe and Mail, about half of Mexico City’s marriages end in divorce and many of those divorces take place in two years or less. So the legislature figures this is a nice happy medium.
I don’t rock with two-year renewable marriage contracts. Marriage is a lifelong commitment between two people (sorry fundamentalist Mormons). Sure, it doesn’t always work out, for a variety of reasons, but there needs to be a hard working spirit behind maintaining a life-long bond. If a marriage doesn’t work, it shouldn’t be because of a lack of trying. Sometimes people really do just grow apart, turn into different people, do something unforgivable, etc. It happens.
A two-year civil union contract sounds quite lovely, especially for those late-teen and early 20-somethings who just knooooow they are destined for a happily forever after with their current sugar lump, but they’re so not.
Two-year marriage contracts would surely make the divorce rate go down (while non-renewals of contracts go through the roof), but they in no way serve to get at the root cause for the divorce rate. It’s like buying make-up instead of using Proactive.
Do I really truly have an answer to pushing down the divorce rate? Of course not. But I do think that at least part of the solution is in partner selection. Many people get married for the sake of having a wedding or having someone to call a huuuuuusband. You’re definitely setting yourself up for disaster in that scenario.
Le sigh. Life-long monogamy in a culture that seems to encourage anything but.
What do you think about two-year marriage contracts?